I came back last month from my weekend trip with my old girlfriends who I haven’t seen for years. When my husband found out that I am planning to see my friends he was very supportive and offered to take care of our daughter while I was gone.. Everything went well - a daddy and a daughter had nice time together, and I had a chance to see my girlfriends. I was so happy!

I noticed a voice mail on my cell while I  was gone. It was my older sister! I thought, “She is happy for me and wants to find out about my trip!”

I sat down and listened to the voice mail. Hmmm. She broke up with her boyfriend! They were dating for three months and now it is over. They didn’t agree on a few subjects and she decided to finish a relationship.

My sister was single for five years. After her divorce she couldn’t find the “right” guy. I was hoping that this relationship would last… why did she break up with him?

My sister’s voice sounded very upset ….. Very upset with me! She said: “ I broke up with my boyfriend because of you. I cannot have a serious relationship because of the childhood trauma. When you were born parents were paying too much attention to you and didn’t treat me as nice as you. So you grew up in love and I was miserable. You can have a long term relationship and be happy but I cannot!”

It is not the first time I have heard something similar to that from my sister but it is the first time I decided not to feel guilty! I can’t be responsible for her out of control feelings of jealousy or the troubles in her life, but I do feel sad that she chooses to be angry at me.

I have two daughters. I really hope that they will be real friends when they grow up!