After Divorce: Why Some Women Remarry Fast While Others Stay Single
Divorce is such an agonizing time for everyone involved: husbands, wives, and the children in between. It really doesn’t even matter how close you were when you decided to make the split or how long you were together-chances are you spent some memorable times with them and shared some treasured moments, and by divorcing-all of that comes to an end. That said, how do you make the most successful transition from divorced to single life? Some women end up remarrying right away while others tend to stay single for awhile. No matter which of these you consider yourself, you may wonder what makes the difference between the two? Below, we examine the number one factors involved in those who quickly remarry and those who do not.
1.   Dependent Nature: One of the most significant variables in those who tend to remarry fast after divorce, is what their dependent nature is. Do you consider yourself someone who has always needed to be in a relationship to have a full life or are you someone who feels safer being on her own once in awhile? Whichever boat you put yourself in will determine whether or not you remarry or stay single after divorce. How you view relationships is key to how you act-either proactively towards getting another one or not.

2.    Self Confidence: Another key reason that many women find themselves single long after they have divorced is because they have low self-confidence. This could be a self attribute that you always have had, or most commonly, you may have increased its potency once divorced-especially if the divorce was because of your husband’s neglect or infidelity. Just working on yourself-in career and self overall-will help learn to think better of yourself, and at which point you can decide if you are ready or not for a new relationship.
3.    Freedom: For many women, divorce can give them a time to be single and free when they most need it-to for once in their lives consider just what they want out of life and a partner. This can be a liberating time for women-especially for those who may have been married for a long time to the same person. Some women do not need this time to explore themselves or perhaps they feel like they can still explore their goals and dreams with a partner. It all depends on the woman.
4.    Marriage Experience: In many cases, the idea of marriage leaves a bad taste in some women’s’ mouths. This could be because they were abused, neglected, or cheated on. So these same women have a bad association with marriage and tend to stay away from it for longer-if not for the rest of their lives. Other women, who may had better experience in their marriages but something was just missing, have no qualms about remarrying right away.
Whatever your situation as a new divorcee, know that the difference between a woman who remarries quickly and one who stays single for longer- has absolutely nothing to do with attractiveness. It is the choice of every woman to approach relationships in whatever way and time frame they choose-and their actions will necessarily follow.

Whatever the circumstances may be, you are raising your child or children alone. What’s next? What changes when you are a single parent versus a dual parent household? Good news! You can be an excellent single parent. You may be a bit busier than the other parents and you may have to learn time management skills, but you can do it and you can raise outstanding young adults.
Community
It has been said many times before that it takes a village or a community to raise a child. I believe that this is true. No matter if you are married, in a relationship or single, it takes more than one person to raise a child successfully. Who else is in your life that is a part of your child’s life? Teachers, community leaders, religious figures, family, friends or relationship partners? In addition to providing positive influence for your children, these individuals can also serve as a support structure for you as a parent. After all, most of us need help every once in a while. If you have not surrounded yourself with a group of positive individuals to support you as a parent and to support your child’s development, begin to reach out to the individuals mentioned to build a network.
Time Management
When you are a single parent, there is no one in your household to watch the baby or your child while you take a shower, why you run to the grocery store or to help when one of your children are sick. So what do you do? What about your free time- what free time? Back to the concept of building a community, having help will help you. If money is an issue, many women use babysitting co-ops in their neighbourhoods or with the churches. Just because you are a single parent does not mean that you don’t deserve a few moments to yourself every once in a while.
In addition to help, you also need to master the concept of the household schedule. This is especially important if you have active children and you are a working parent. You need to master planning ahead, having contingency plans and working on projects whenever you have time. Single parents are often juggling many more balls in the air than a dual parent household. But if you manage your time well, you can still complete everything that you need to, you can be at your children’s functions, you can work and you can manage to have free time. It is all about the schedule.
So if you are a veteran single parent or are new to the scene, you must first ask for help. You will be surprised how many other single parents there are who are also willing to chip in with a hand. Then, you must become the master of time management. Don’t worry; you can do it and you can do it well!

With the New Year, there are many resolutions and goals that people long for. Many spend months planning what their New Year’s resolution will be, while others have no planning to do at all. For all the single moms in the world, their goal, dream and plans are to find the Mr. Right that will not only love them, but will also be good to their children. While there are many action plans and how to guides of how to accomplish this, this article will focus on changing your luck for 2009. No more waiting and wondering, here are the best of the best: tips and tricks for getting the man of your dreams in 2009.
Start Small, But Effective
First, and foremost no one wants to look desperate or if they are launching a full scale search for Mr. Right. Instead start on a smaller scale where it isn’t quite so noticeable. For example, how about the kid’s soccer games or those birthday parties that never seems to end. In today’s world there are many single dads that are raising their children or at least taking more of an active role in courting them from all those social events. In other words never pass up a game, birthday party or other social event involving your children. You just may never know when Mr. Right may be there waiting to introduce himself to you! Other small scale plans include the super market, church singles groups, volunteer events and just about anywhere else you could possibly think of.
Remember Back A Few Years
Haven’t you heard of those divorcees that found love with someone they already knew years ago? Remember back to those years when you dated that guy you were madly in love with, but were just too immature or young to make it work. Where is he now? Is he married, divorced? Look him up and ask around to see if friends or acquaintances may know where he lives or works. He might just be single or recently divorced and looking for love just like you. This may take a little investigative work on your part, but everyone knows that women love a good detective story! The internet can help you find just about anyone so Google, here we come!
A Friend Of A Friend
You know those friends of friends that are always brought up in conversation? They might just be the right one for you. Listen to your friends, sister and co-workers, since everyone knows someone that is single. This is how blind dates get set up and sometimes they are extremely successful. To do this you just need to listen to the conversations of others or ask them about those single friends of theirs. This is one of the fastest ways to get hooked up with others. Just think of it this way, these trusted friends and relatives of yours already know this person, where they work and a little about them. Since dating is sometimes a mystery having this background information is a positive!

Single moms have to do it all. Sometimes it’s easy to look around at the couples with or without kids and feel like no-one understands what you are going through. This is when you need help the most, and there are a lot of places you can get backup and single mom support.

Support groups are everywhere, whether it be the single parents in your neighborhood or building, the other moms who show up at the PTA meeting with baby food on their blouse, or even the parents’ group at church. Strike up a conversation and make a new friend. You might be surprised at how much you have in common with the immaculately dressed woman in 3-A when you run across her at midnight in the laundry room. When you see her bleary eyed and make-up free, in grungy sweats with her hair jammed in a scrunchie washing kid vomit out of sheets, you might just realize your worlds aren’t so far apart after all.

Many people in a mom’s life can offer a single mom support by taking turns carpooling or offering to baby-sit in shifts so she can have a chance to run errands or even just sleep for a few hours. Churches often offer a cheap alternative to standard daycare, and mother’s day out programs are great.

If you can find a group dedicated to single mom support all the better!  These loosely organized networks of single parents can help all members cope with the trials of handing kids, a job and a life on your own. They can hook you up with coupons, deals, babysitters and nannies, let you know who the best household help options are, qualify you for group rates on tickets for fun activities or just offer a few understanding shoulders to cry on when life seems too complicated.

When you are a single mom, support can just mean validation or assurance that you are doing an OK job. Parents can feel so inadequate sometimes, and wonder if they are shortchanging their kids. A group of moms going through the same things can help a lot just by reinforcing the fact that you are not alone.

If you are a single mom, support might be al you need to get that extra boost to help you through the week. Look for a support group in your area and join up today. Help is on its way!